Why are men so relaxed these days when it comes to chivalry?

[Keisha Pickett]

Ladies and gents, especially! Let's talk about the lack of chivalry in our modern times. Why is that piece fading away?

[Teddy]

I think its rather simple. In many cases men do what we are required to do and it seems that most women don't care, don't require and some don't even know the meaning of chivalry. If you let a man come over and eat all your food and drink all your liquor, guess what, he's going to do it.
I'm sure I'm breaking major man laws by saying this but women really don't realize how much power they have. Just imagine if women said, for example, "We refuse to date men who have not graduated from college or who have not pursued some form of post high school education" College and trade school enrollment would instantly go through the roof!
Most of the things men do, from how we dress, what we drive or maybe even our haircut is directly or indirectly related to women.
I also agree with what the brother had to say about the bad boy image. Women definitely love that image and knowing that could make a gentleman change is stripes.

[Kelly Edmond]

I dont like bad boys so thats not correct.

[Anthony J. Cox]

I have to agree with Teddy. Women do have a lot of power to get men to live up to the standards they have set and he is absolutely correct about it, but also I want to take it one step further if I can. It also depends on his upbringing as well. If the male child parents don’t expect the male child to do anything that is honorable; then he won’t. He can only do what he see and have learned from either inside or outside the home. Most children imitate what they have seen and have been taught from their parents or parent, family, friends, TV, the radio, the streets, and sad to say, but yes even school. So when you ask, “Why are men so relaxed these days when it comes to chivalry?” They are relaxed when it comes to chivalry because there was one no role model that have the characteristic of being Chivalrous or the role model has subjected the male child to a fast and quick and easy life. Our society doesn’t teach chivalry anymore. It’s every man for himself. So like Teddy said, “Women step your game up and set the standards a little higher.” Guess what, the men will have no choice but to follow.

[Tasha M]

I think Steve Harvey said it's all about requirements. It's interesting the guys are echoing this one. This one has been on my list of "must-do's" for a while. If a man can't open a door for me out of respect that's all I need to know. It only took one guy doing this to me over the course of a week for me to get hip to this one. Either he wasn't raised "right" (meaning right for me and what I want) or he simply doesn't think enough of me to put me first. Either way, it's cool, keep it movin.

[bzegirl]

IMO there are several possible reasons ranging from it being a dying art in the young community due to a lack of exposure i.e chivalry not being prevalent in their immediate surroundings, men wanting to be "baby daddies" rather than fathers and more importantly women not demanding to be treated as "ladies". We all want to be independent strong women that sometimes we don't realize that we're not allowing men to be gentlemen.

[KIA]

i totally agree with you bezgirl...

[Jennifer Williamson]

Chivalry is only dying because we are not teaching or doing it correctly to our children, my company see this all the time we go into schools and churches to teach kids and parents about proper social and business etiquette. So I say we as a people have dropped the ball, so if we chivalry to last and to be a staple in our everyday life we need to properly teach it and let our children know its ok.

[Dee]

I agree with the majority of responders here. I know a man will do whatever you allow him to do. If you don't expect him to open doors, pull out chairs and so-forth and even more if you accept the fact that he doesn't - then it is what it is. I will give a brother a chance - maybe he wasn't brought up to know these things but it's up to the woman to let him know what is accepted and expected and give him that choice - deal with it or move on - we can still be friends and good luck with your journey - just be ready to let go if he doesn't step up to whatever it is you are looking for that man to be in your life.

[Kelly Edmond]

Men dont have to be gentlemen because most women arent ladies period.

We have sex on the first date. Think "kicking it" is cool when its just a nice way to say we are fugg buddies.

Also men arent men.